As the Head, Product Branding of the advertising agency where she works, a lot is expected from her. She sighed deeply. “How did I arrive here?” She asked herself. She has always envisioned a great career and happy family. All that was shattered when she had to divorce her husband late last year. 

“Pray” the spirit urged her. She has been ignoring the voice for the past weeks because she didn’t feel the need to pray anymore. It’s been a long time since she had a personal time and family devotion has stopped since the day Jason cheated on her. 

Do you find yourself in the same situation? Just like Cecilia, you are asking yourself how did you get here too? 

The Proverb 31 Woman is our perfect model. So you’re wondering but this woman is married. I want you to remember that Isaiah 54:5 described God not only as our Maker but also our Husband. 

So whether divorced, separated or widowed, I want you to see God as your husband. Proverbs 31 makes her husband proud how much more God who is everything we could ever imagine. She was really a successful career woman. She not only managed her home properly but was excellent at her job likewise her relationship with others. Her son attested to that.

Proverbs 31 described that this woman as versatile in directing her affairs and she is not afraid of what may come her way because she prepared. Nothing got to her by surprise. To achieve this, why not start by seeing your job and home as something you will give account for. 

Just like the parable of the talent. God is entrusting into your hands your kids even your work and you will stand before him to recount what you did with them. The parable explained that the talent was given to them according to their ability. 

So God can’t give you what you can’t handle and you’re the best person for the job even as your reward starts here on earth. It is revealed in the life of your kids likewise at work place, community even church.

Here are some few tips that help us run a successful home and still be excellent at work as a single mom.

Set A Goal: 

What do you want to achieve today? What are my children’s needs, what are the necessary needs in the house? What dO I need to do around the house? Likewise make the same list for your job. What do you tend to achieve? How do I make it happen? Make a list of them and set them according to importance. Go over the list to check what has been and what is left to do.  

Wake Up Early:

This could mean rising up early in the morning and also planning your day ahead. Planning your day ahead can also mean making a list of what to do before going to bed the previous night. You can set an alarm or reminder to keep in track.

Delegate Duties:

Proverb 31 woman was known for giving portions to her maids. Due to the ranging stories of how maids treat their employer, you may be skeptical about having one. If you insist, finding a maid with reputable agencies or family members can help you. 

If you have older kids, they can watch after the younger kids. You can also start by giving them little house chores around the house, this also an advantage because you’re grooming them. 

Likewise at work, you can ask your colleagues or junior colleagues to help you out. Remember you must be nice and humble about it, you can compensate them also. You can also run errands for the family, you can use your lunch break or on your way home from work.

Pray: 

This is very paramount as a Christian. As much as your family and work needs you, God desire constant fellowship with him. By praying, you are able to draw strength to do that which you are supposed to do. 

By praying, he grants you wisdom in all situations. You can pray set your personal time to pray. You can do this very early in the morning before everyone wake up or night when everyone has gone to bed. You can do this during the day, find a perfect time at work. You can quiet pray while working too or during chores. 

Rest: 

There is a popular saying that says all work and no play make Jack a dull boy. Take time to rejuvenate. You can do this by spending time with kids, friends, exercise, and eating healthy. Take care of your mind, body and spirit. 

Your kids need a healthy mother and you also need to be excellent at work. Take time to see how well you’ve done and areas you need to improve. If you’re longing for that true happiness you may never find it, so let your heart delight in what you do. Find joy around it.

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Joy Babatayo

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1. Acknowledge Your Weakness:

You need to first acknowledge that there is an issue, it could be an habit or addiction. 

2. Set Realistic Plans:

You can’t choose to be self disciplined by mouth, you have to work it out, it requires hardwork.

Set out plans on how you want to overcome the habit or addiction. Example: Stay off social media for 6hours.

3. Resist Temptation When It Comes:

Yours could be that you don’t want to buy on credit again. 

This means that when anyone tells you to take something and pay later, resist the urge to take it and move on.

Yours could be no taking of Soda this month. 

4. Always Think Of The Long Term Results:

Think about the result of what you are doing now. Let your focus always be on the positive results you would be getting from being self disciplined. Don’t think short term, think long term.

5. Have Accountability Partners:

It would be a good idea if you have someone you are accountable to. The person is able to monitor your progress. 

Don’t forget to try out these steps today,remember it’s a gradual process. Give it time. 

Written By:

Joy Babatayo. 

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Follow these steps: 

1. Wash Your Hair:

Do this regularly and effectively and ensure you wash your scalp thoroughly. 

2. Use A Deep Conditioner:

Deep conditioners strengthen your hair, softens it and makes it much easier to comb out.

3. Detangle Properly:

It is important to detangle before every wash otherwise, you’ll lose so much hair.

4. Trim When Necessary:

Watch out for when you have weak ends and trim accordingly to avoid further breakage.

5. Avoid Complicated Styling:

Avoid styles that put a strain on your edges and scalp.

6. Wear A Swimming Cap:

Always wear a swimming cap when going to swim as this protects your hair from the damaging effects of chlorine. You can also wet and condition your hair before swimming.

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Joy Babatayo

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Here are a few guides to controlling burnouts: 

1. Know what makes you stressed out:

You have to identify the things that easily stress you, it could be your career, lack of funds, bills, societal pressures etc.

After identifying the cause of the stress, look for solutions. You don’t have to come with answers to your stress in a day, you can take it one step at a time. 

2. Have a constant routine:

Having a schedule helps you getting unnecessarily tired or worked up. You don’t have to worry about what next to do. Setup a plan and put reminders on your calendar, you can also write them down on sticky notes.

3. Get enough quality sleep:

You can’t choose not to sleep and not feel tired. Always give yourself time to rest properly. 

4. Delegate duties:

You don’t have to be the one doing all the work, if your kids are matured enough give them duties to do, that way you don’t feel worked up.

5. Plan ahead:

Always plan ahead be it what to wear or meals, always have a plan.

Which of these would you be trying out?

Written By:

Joy Babatayo 

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As the scripture teaches, `Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. ‘ (Prov. 22:6.)

Raising a godly child in this time and age requires grace because they are being exposed to a lot that you aren’t even aware of. 

If a child is wrong before you discipline them let them know why, ensure they are aware of what they have done wrong if  not the beating or punishment means nothing to them as they will still repeat the same act again. 

The negative effects of beating your kids:

1.Most children even develop a stony heart and are never remorseful when they commit an offence because as a parent you haven’t explained the reason behind your actions to them. 

2. Unnecessary beating can also allow the child keep to himself therefore even becoming more violent in the home.

3. When you beat or over punish a child anger becomes a part of them because most of them are angry about what you are doing but won’t be able to express themselves. They later turn out to be vagabonds. 

4. The children develop a low self esteem. They constantly feel unloved or unworthy, learn to always correct out of love.

There should be a balance when it comes to disciplining a child. 

Written By:

Joy Babatayo

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Having to juggle life, career, motherhood as a single mom isn’t easy, it is exhausting and

it’s not healthy for you and the kids.

Here are a few guides to controlling burnouts: 

1. Know what makes you stressed out:

You have to identify the things that easily stress you, it could be your career, lack of funds, bills,

societal pressures etc after identifying the cause of the stress, look for solutions.

You don’t have to come with answers to your stress in a day, you can take it one step at a time. 

2. Have a constant routine:

Having a schedule helps you getting unnecessarily tired or worked up. You don’t have to worry about what next to do.

Setup a plan and put reminders on your calendar, you can also write them down on sticky notes.

3. Get enough quality sleep:

You can’t choose not to sleep and not feel tired. Always give yourself time to rest properly. 

4. Delegate duties: You don’t have to be the one doing all the work, if your kids are matured

enough give them duties to do, that way you don’t feel worked up.

5. Plan ahead:

Always plan ahead be it what to wear or meals, always have a plan.

Which of these would you be trying out?

Written By:

Joy Babatayo 

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SEO is in high demand. 

Search engine optimization means taking a piece of online content and optimizing

it so search engines like Google show it towards the top of the page when someone searches for something.

 A lot of companies are trying to bring in organic views to their websites and

products so it’s made up of people who are driven to find the answer for the questions they’re asking.  

2. UI/UX Design:

This is the design of user interfaces for machines and software, such as computers,

home appliances, mobile devices, and other electronic devices, with the focus on

maximizing usability and the user experience. 

It centres on creating user-friendly interfaces that enable users to understand how to use complex technical products. 

3. Digital marketing:

This is also known as online marketing and it is the promotion of brands to connect

with potential customers using the internet and other forms of digital communication.

4. Video Editing:

Video editing is the process of manipulating and rearranging video shots to create a new work. 

Video editing is also used to structure and present all video information, including

films and television shows and video advertisements.

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Joy Babatayo 

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Marriage, Career and being a mom can be exhausting, and for some, it’s a struggle

doing everything within their power to maintain a good work-life balance, keeping the home

, taking care of their kids and having time for themselves.

Did I just hear you say you are tired and exhausted? First you deserve all the applause,

I mean how do you juggle being a wife; your husband is your baby o, then being a mom.

Now imagine you have more than a kid, that’s enough work already, then you still have a 9-5.

I need you to clap for yourself. 

Honestly combining all these can be exhausting most times, I mean it literally seems as though

you don’t have a life of your own and you are living everyone’s life. 

Pause and take a deep breath, it’s okay to get tired and sometimes take a break to pull yourself back together.

Here are 5 major ways you can deal with it:

1. Put your trust in God:

The truth is your strength may fail you. You should write these verses out and paste

them on your wall, either in the kitchen or in your study room.

When I am afraid,

I put my trust in you.

In God, whose word I praise,

in God, I trust; I shall not be afraid.

What can flesh do to me?”

-Psalm 56:3-4

The LORD is my strength and my shield;

in him my heart trusts, and I am helped;

my heart exults,

and with my song I give thanks to him.”

-Psalm 28:7

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart,

and do not lean on your own understanding.

In all your ways acknowledge him,

and he will make straight your paths.”

-Proverbs 3:5-6

A life without Jesus is nothing, so when next you feel overwhelmed about your

home and career, look unto Jesus to help you out, and he will always come through for you. 

Your home, kids and career are your ministry: The moment you no longer see this as a chore

is the moment you start enjoying every bit of experience. 

2. Meet frustration with love:

Frustration is normal while juggling many responsibilities, however it should not get the better of you.

Instead of getting frustrated when your partner or child is acting reach out back to them in love.

You can make a funny face or just gently and lovingly look at them and offer them a hug. 

3. Plan weekly or monthly outings:

It’s okay to plan weekly or monthly outings with your family. This would help you bond more with them.

This a once-a-week or once a month shows your family how committed and important they are to you.

It brings more joy into your life as a family and as a couple.

4. It’s okay to take a break:

You might feel guilty wanting to try this out, but to avoid total burnouts it’s okay to take a day

and let your partner or your kid’s if they are old enough be aware of this.

Let them know that mummy is resting. 

5. It’s okay to get an external help:

You might have your reservations around this but know that it’s okay to get help.

If it means you have to hire a cook or sort please do, it even helps you to be more productive. 

These are the few tips I would be sharing with you. Which of them would you be trying out?

Please drop your responses in the comment section. We look forward to hearing from you. 

Written By:

Joy Babatayo

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It’s good to be happy but it takes wisdom to keep the relationship.

Here are a few tips to know before you say yes to that guy.

1. Discover and build yourself: You need to discover yourself first before you start discovering your partner,

you must know your strength, your weaknesses, your gifts, your abilities first.

Also build yourself, you don’t have to wait till marriage before you start building yourself.

Start now, work on your character, be financially stable. You can’t choose to be a liability to your partner.

2. Build on the word of God: As a Christian if you choose to follow the word,

a lot of things won’t be hard for you in marriage. There is a way you will walk with God that

if he instructs you to do anything it won’t be hard for you. You must learn to be slow to speak,

you must have self control, marriage isn’t going to change anyone instead it amplifies things.

3. Get counsel: Counselling cannot be over emphasized,

you can’t claim to know it all. It’s better to seek counselling.

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Joy Babatayo

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sometimes you are confused on what to do without actually breaking a bank.

Christmas is a season that everyone looks forward to.

During this period you have more guests than usual and you would want to make your home very welcoming for them.

Here are some handy tips that would help you when thinking of how to decorate your home for Christmas.

1. You could decorate your dining tables with fancy table mats and arrange your cutlery set properly.

You could also have scented candles placed on the tables.

You know fully well that Christmas lunch or dinner is something to always look forward to,

so you can make the experience lasting enough for your family members and guests.

2. You could also decorate your living room with Christmas tree and lights,

it’s gives you an aura of it’s Christmas season.

3. A little bit of festive touches in the rooms won’t also be a bad idea,

you really don’t have to do much. You could just get a few Christmas ornaments and use in decorating the rooms.

4. You can also decorate your house with Christmas themed wallpapers.

5. You can create a gift section in your house, you can decorate a part of your house with

different Christmas ornaments and a Christmas tree with an inscription ‘drop your gifts here.’

Your guests will drop their gifts under the Christmas tree.

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Joy Babatayo

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