How To Find Love After 30

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How To Find Love After 30

Dating in your 20s is totally different from dating in your 30s. When you’re a twenty-something, it’s all about having fun. You’re more carefree; you’re not really looking for anything serious. In your 30s, everything changes. You’re not about dating just for the sake of dating who has time for that? You might want to settle down, maybe even get married and start a family. But as frustrating as it can feel to watch the people around you get hitched and have babies while you’re spending your Friday nights going on a string of lacklustre dates, there are a lot of benefits to dating in your 30s. There’s just something about your third decade that makes you feel way more grounded and secure in who you are.

1. Get Clarity

Once you get clarity around your desires, which may require some self-reflection and sitting down with pen and paper, then start focusing on them. We attract the things that we think about, so you don’t want to stay in the I-don’t-like-people-who-lie mindset. Because then all you will attract are more partners who lie. Focus your attention and energy on those good characteristics you’re looking for and then you’ll start spotting singles who embody those traits everywhere you go.

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2. State your intentions

To avoid wasting your time and getting emotionally attached to someone who will never be The One, share your intentions right from the beginning. If your goal is to get married, settle down, and start a family, don’t be afraid to write that on your dating profile. Yes, it’s a bold move, but it’s the best way to market the type of relationship your heart is craving. Having your intentions right there for everyone to see will prompt someone who’s just looking to have fun to swipe left and encourage someone who’s on the same page as you are to swipe right.
Be clear about your intentions, but not having that conversation on the first date. There’s an art to doing it. You don’t want to sit down with someone on a first date or your first encounter and make them feel like they’re in an interview or a screening process. Instead, be curious and ask questions in an authentic and genuine way that will help you get a feel for what their goals are.

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3. Be open to dating someone who isn’t your type

Your 30s are the perfect time to branch out from your typical “type” and date new people. You never know where it may lead you. Date outside of your comfort zone. When you’re clear on the inner traits of someone, they’re probably going to come in a package you don’t expect. If you remain open to what they look like, how tall they are, what ethnicity they are, etc., then you can actually find an amazing person that you might otherwise miss.”

4. Take the pressure away

Dating in your 30s can come with this sense of urgency to have everything “figured out” and a the-clock-is-ticking mentality that puts so much pressure on every. single encounter. I would tell singles in their 30s to take a deep breath and not to focus on their age. Many worries they won’t be able to have children and that their shelf life will expire once they turn 39. Love doesn’t have an expiration date. Couples are able to have children later in life or adopt and be fulfilled. As long as you’re doing all the things you can to help call in the right partner (i.e. getting clear on what you want, doing the inner work, putting yourself out there, meeting new people, etc.), you’re good. Wait for the right opportunity and trust that it will show up when it’s meant to.

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5. Break the rules

You’ve probably heard all the dating rules a million times. Wait three days to call. Don’t be too needy. Don’t make the first move. Throw all those out the window. I find [rules] get in the way of finding a meaningful connection because every situation is so different. The best rule I can offer is not to wait for the ‘perfect person because we’re all imperfect.

6. Work on your social skills and increase your confidence

As humans, we’re social creatures, We’re meant to be around each other, get energy from each other, interact, have eye contact, and have in-person conversations. That’s how we functioned for hundreds and thousands of years. Somewhere down the line, though, mostly thanks to technology, things changed. So working on levelling up your body language and conversation skills might just be the missing piece that will help you attract your soulmate (if you believe in that sort of thing). But it’s not just about how you interact with others, it’s also about boosting your confidence so that smiling at that cute stranger on the other side of the room feels like no big deal. That’s when you step into a new way of being and dating becomes way easier.

7. Be open to meeting new people offline

While dating apps have definitely proven to be effective in helping people find their person, if you’re exclusively relying on them to help you meet that special someone, you’re really missing out. Okay, so if you’re not meeting new people online, where exactly do you meet your match? You meet them Everywhere. There is no magical place with other single people. The beauty is that they’re doing the same things you are.

8. Listen to your intuition

Above all else, listening to your intuition is so key when it comes to dating in your 30s.
“Our intuition is always guiding us, but in our 20s, we’re not necessarily as ready to hear it. You might have tried really hard to make it work with someone you knew wasn’t good for you or you ignored a ton of red flags. But now, with a decade (or more) of dating and relationships behind you, you can really listen to those signs and inner nudges so you don’t end up wasting your time and energy on people who bring you down.

Written by Ibukun Ilufoye

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